Riviera Counselling Service


Relationship Counselling & More in Bairnsdale, Victoria

Choice Theory (The seven connecting habits) offers an alternative to the destructive external control psychology (The seven disconnecting habits) used throughout the world by most people today.

External control is a forcing and punishing psychology, which is destructive to relationships. The continued use of external control will destroy the ability for one or more individuals to find satisfaction within any type of relationship.

Replacing the seven disconnecting habits of external control with Choice Theories connecting habits is the most important way in which we can help maintain connectedness within our relationships.

The purpose of life - relationship counselling in Elsternwick

Seven Connecting Habits

    • 1. Supporting
    • 2. Encouraging
    • 3. Listening
    • 4. Accepting
    • 5. Trusting
    • 6. Respecting
    • 7. Negotiating differences

Seven Disconnecting Habits

  • 1. Criticising
  • 2. Blaming
  • 3. Complaining
  • 4. Nagging
  • 5. Threatening
  • 6. Punishing
  • 7. Bribing or rewarding to control

Choice Theory teaches us that when we learn how to meet the five basic needs of:

  • Survival
  • Love and Belonging
  • Freedom
  • Fun
  • Power

in ways which build our relationships with those around us and are needs fulfilling for them....... then we will be happy!

Skype and telephone support is available 

Contact us on 042817019





"Quality always feels good"

William Glasser



I am responsible for my own happiness



No one has the power to make me do anything I don't want to



Boss managers get the job done.....lead managers get it done with the best results.



There is no need and no place for punishment in a healthy relationship, school or workplace.