Own your anger
Anger is as relevant a feeling as any of the positive feelings we experience. It exists for a reason and is an important part of the fight flight response to perceived threat. When presented with a threat our primitive brain makes a quick assessment. If we think we can win, or are cornered and believe […]
Kids need unstructured play
Parents today often feel immense pressure to sign their children up to activities like sport , music, dance, art, gymnastics and many others. Those parents then spend huge amounts of time and money running around making sure their children experience these structured and timetabled experiences. To be sure there are many benefits to be had […]
DIY for mental wellbeing
Well, who would have thought that DIY could be a genuine promoter of mental health and wellbeing? Given the frustrations that can occur with DIY it may seem odd to talk about the mental health benefits, but they are real and varied. It doesn’t matter whether the DIY project is for an entire house makeover […]
Soul mates are made, not found
Romantic novels and movies are filled with the idea that there is a soul mate out there for each and every one of us, and if we just wait long enough we will stumble upon them and live happily ever after. While I enjoy a good rom/com as much as the next person, I am […]
Men, it’s time for a tune up
Mental health is an integral part of the overall health and wellbeing of every one of us. It is often said that men don’t look after their health generally and in particular will avoid dealing with their mental health and wellbeing, but this is changing rapidly. Men nowadays have a real understanding that there is […]
Ride the wave
Surfers know the physiological and psychological benefit of catching a wave. This effect is so powerful that they will enter freezing cold water, which could even contain Great White sharks in order to get it. Luckily, we have a version of catching and riding a wave which doesn’t require you to have great balance, toned […]
Take responsibility and self evaluate
It seems there is an increasing tendency for people in our society today to allocate responsibility for anything negative that happens in their life to anyone or anything other than themselves. It seems far easier to blame he, she, it or they, than it is to accept responsibility and do something about a negative situation […]
Doom Scrolling
With the advent of the internet and the proliferation of news feeds and social media we now have a massive amount of information available to us. Of course, not all of it is accurate or reliable and it can be quite a challenge to sort out the wheat from the chaff, but that is a […]
All relationships are transactional
I know that is a controversial thing to hear for many people, but let’s explore the idea a little more. We have been led to believe that love is altruistic and to expect something back when you care about another is somehow unworthy or even unhealthy. This is based on the view that being selfless […]
Hold the phone
As I was sitting in a café last week, I observed a parent walk past accompanied by a toddler. Nothing unusual about that! I noticed that the parent was engrossed in their phone and was not holding the hand of their toddler. Perhaps that’s ok too, if it’s only for a moment. However, this parent […]