Your mind is a garden; your thoughts are the seeds. You can plant flowers, or you can plant weeds.
“Your mind is a garden; your thoughts are the seeds. You can plant flowers, or you can plant weeds.” It is a simple line, but it carries a depth that modern neuroscience is only now catching up with. Recent research coming out of Stanford University has again highlighted something many of us have known for […]
R Asks- Why is it that people try to control each other all the time?
Thanks R, this is something which comes up regularly, sometimes with frustration, sometimes with genuine confusion, and sometimes with a weary sigh. It shows up in relationships, families, workplaces, politics and even casual conversations. We find ourselves asking, “Why can’t people just let others be?” or “Why does everything turn into a power struggle?” A […]
Shingles is linked to Wellbeing.
In the past, shingles was considered to be an older person’s illness, something that showed up later in life often alongside the natural weakening of the body that comes with aging. Recently doctors are reporting that people in their thirties, twenties and even younger are being diagnosed with shingles, often with no obvious medical explanation. […]
Behaviour Is Always a Choice
It is easy to believe that our behaviour is caused by what happens to us. Someone speaks sharply so we snap back. A situation feels unfair, we withdraw, stress builds and patience disappears. From the outside it can look automatic, almost unavoidable, yet when we slow things down and look more closely, something important becomes […]
Fasting and Wellbeing
Many people search for ways to feel better, to think more clearly, and to carry a little more energy into the day. It is easy to look for complicated answers when the simple ones often sit in front of us. One practice that has gained a lot of attention is intermittent fasting. It sounds technical […]
We are all heroes even though we don’t know it
A recent article I read had me thinking about bravery and heroism. There is a common belief that when something dangerous or frightening happens most people freeze and do nothing. It is called bystander apathy and it paints a bleak picture of human nature. It suggests that we are wired to stand back and hope […]
“I find it really hard to get started with projects, how do I get motivated?”
Thanks B. It is very common to feel stuck before a project has begun. We can have a great idea in our mind, we can talk about it at length, and we can even look forward to the result, yet somehow getting started feels like pushing a boulder uphill. Many people describe it as a […]
There is always a choice.
The simple truth underlying every moment of our lives is that we always have a choice, though it doesn’t always feel that way. Sometimes the situation seems fixed and unchangeable, sometimes other people behave in ways we do not like, sometimes the world appears to place us in a corner. Yet even in those moments […]
“I’m an honest person and I don’t understand why people tell lies.”
Thanks Y that can be very challenging for many of us. When honesty feels natural to you, being faced with what you perceive as deception, can leave you confused and disappointed. You might think, “If I can tell the truth, why can’t they?” To understand how and why people lie, we need to step back […]
What is community and how do successful communities work?
When we think of community, we often picture a group of people who live close together or share common interests, but community is more than geography or shared hobbies. It is a network of relationships where people feel they belong, where their efforts matter and where they have the freedom to contribute in ways that […]