Should I vent my anger to get it out of my system?
For many years we were told that anger was like steam building up inside a pressure cooker. The advice was to let it out before it explodes, punch a punching bag or pillow, smash something, scream out loud. Just get it out of your system. It sounded logical, but research has consistently shown that this […]
What is Positive Sentiment Override and can it be learned?
Thanks for the Question W. One of the greatest predictors of a happy, lasting relationship isn’t whether couples argue, every couple has differences of opinion. It isn’t whether they occasionally annoy each other, that is inevitable too. The real difference often comes down to something psychologists call Positive Sentiment Override. It sounds like a complicated […]
The power of our thoughts is greater than we imagine
One of the most important things I have ever learned is that while we can’t directly choose our feelings, we have far more influence over them than most people realise. Many people spend years waiting to feel motivated, happy, calm or confident before they take action, unfortunately that usually meant they kept waiting. Our behaviour […]
How do I develop confidence?
How do I develop confidence? When some people seem naturally confident, but others hesitate before almost every decision, it can be easy to believe that confidence is something you either have or you don’t. We often think that if we could just change our thinking and become more positive then confidence would magically appear. Interestingly, […]
Are We Forgetting How to Talk?
Many people nowadays seem less comfortable having a face to face conversation than sending a text message. Technology has given us many wonderful ways to stay connected, even over great distances, but there is growing evidence that our increasing reliance on texting is changing the way we communicate and not always for the better. Text […]
Take Charge of Your Life Today
Take Charge of Your Life Today Have you noticed how much time and energy people spend trying to change things they have little or no control over? They worry about what others think, how they behave, decisions governments make, the weather, the economy, or events that happened years ago. Yet despite all that effort, very […]
Addiction to AI.
One of the emerging conversations around AI is whether people can become “addicted” to it, particularly when they begin relating to it as though it were a real person or entity. The answer is yes this can happen, but not because AI has magical powers or consciousness. It happens for the same reason many unhealthy […]
External Control is the biggest problem in the world today.
External Control is the biggest problem in the world today. It’s easy to look at conflict around the world and see it as something distant and not related to us, wars between countries, political standoffs and power struggles played out on a global stage. If we’re honest with ourselves, the same patterns that drive those […]
Caring for a loved one at the end of life
Caring for someone you love at the end of their life can be one of the most profound and challenging experiences we can face. It is a time that brings together love, fear, uncertainty and often the kind of courage that people do not realise they have until they are called upon to use it. […]
The Meaning and Purpose of Recreation
When people hear the word recreation they often think of time off and leisure or entertainment, something pleasant to fill the gaps between responsibilities. The true meaning of recreation runs much deeper than that, and understanding it can quietly change the way we value and invest our time. The word recreation comes from the Latin […]