Ask Jeff- Dealing with a critical work colleague.
I have a work colleague who is always making unneeded suggestions about my work. How do I stop this? I’ve tried asking them, telling them I don’t like it, being cold and unresponsive and even getting annoyed and showing my annoyance. Thanks R Hi R. It can be really challenging when we have work colleagues […]
Q How do I know if my relationship is worth keeping?
Hi TM, thanks for your question. Sometimes we persist with a relationship which deep down we know is not really working for us. We do this because at some level we know that though it may be meeting some of our needs, it is either not meeting them very well, or in some cases is […]
Body image, there is no perfect!
Q How do I deal with my body image concerns? Thanks S. Hi S, this is an increasing issue as technology and social media now allow people to create picture perfect images of celebrities and influencers. These images are often digitally enhanced, and this has become almost impossible to detect as AI is increasingly used […]
Q? How do I choose a counsellor to help me and what can I expect from them? Regards, A
Dear A, there are many different ways that counselling can be performed, whether that is carried out by a psychologist, psychiatrist or counsellor. The main thing you should be taking into account is the relationship you are able to form with them. It should be warm and supportive whilst still professional and not overstepping the […]
All relationships have conflict
Many clients are surprised when I share this information with them. Often, they come to counselling because they want a relationship without conflict. When I tell them this is not possible they are dumbfounded. Sometimes they tell me I am wrong and point out that in the beginning they had a great relationship without arguments […]
Caring for an aging parent.
Hi Jeff, My mother, who is fiercely independent, lives alone in a villa community, her issue seems to be with people. There is a huge range of activities, but she avoids interacting with her neighbours. She doesn’t talk to anyone except immediate family and won’t go on social outings with us, she insists she is […]
Worrying is a waste of time
For most of us worrying seems to be something we have little control over. Sometimes we justify it as being something that cautious and careful people do, almost seeing it as a virtue. Make no mistake it is not; even low level worrying has a negative effect on our health and wellbeing. Worrying is believed […]
Ask Jeff- Valentines Day
“It can be very lonely on Valentine’s Day if you don’t have a partner. What can I do to make it better? From J.” Valentine’s day can be challenging for those who see it as a day which drives home that they are alone. The commercialisation of Valentine’s Day and the Social Media which now […]
Is there really no “I” in Team?
This is an old sporting adage often seen in many changerooms and workplace team meeting rooms around the world. Depending on their modus operandi, coaches and leaders beg, beseech, implore, cajole or aggressively demand their players buy into this belief. I remember playing sport for many years and never questioning this, it had become such […]
Forest Bathing for improved Wellbeing
Forest bathing is a new term for the way all humans once engaged with the environment around them. As we have become more and more urbanised and connected to technology, we have become increasingly disconnected from the natural environment around us. Called Shinrin Yoku by the Japanese, a term which means forest bath, it still […]